Preparations Until Marriage

When the couple decides to marry, many preparations begin with excitement. Especially in Turkish culture it happens like that. Turkish culture has colourful and enjoyable traditions which continue until marriage preparations. We generally think that they are our cutoms and they have been realized for many years , so they must be continued. Until people start to wedding preparation, there are three main parts which should be done.
At first, after the couple loves each other and decides to marry , their families make a decision about meeting with rush and big arrangements. Boy’s family sets out but before they arrive , they buy flowers and chocolate so that eating sweet things cause to speak pleasantly. While they do these things, girl’s family also makes such as cleaning their house. At the same time both families wear smart clothes. When they arrive the house, people who are hosts welcome to them sincerely. While they are sitting and talking, the girl makes Turkish coffee. The coffee which is made to boy includes salt and bitter.At first glance, it seems nonsense, but actually it is meaningful. If the boy drinks it saying nothing , it means the boy is always with her despite trouble and pain. After that, the boy’s father says to girl’s father we want his girl with God’s order and prophet’s utterance, then the girl’s father says children love each other so they don’t have any word and they give their daughter.
The second part of it is engagement but until engagement, there are also many preparations, Firstly, the boy and his family make up bundle that includes pyjamas, dress and slipper for the girl, dress or scarf for her mother, shirt for her father. When they are making them, the girl’s family cooks delicious meals like tart and pie. Then both of the families wear their smart clothes again. The engagement is also made in the girl’s house where families and relatives have a chat and eat these meals during this time. Later any member of the families who is always the oldest person of the families wears rings to the couple wanting that their relation continues forever.
The last part is to g oto the boy’s house. After the boy’s family’s visiting, the family members of the girl go to their house. It is asked why it happens. It is realized to bring to him a bundle. Before they go there, they arrange a bundle which includes the similar things in her bundle. They give the bundle. The only thing which remains is waiting for wedding day.
When these things happen, people get into a flap and they are excited. It is said that although they require a lot of preparations which are so tiresome , they are wonderful feelings that should be experienced.